My wife Julia wrote an amazing article titled “Try not to judge“. It starts “Becoming a parent is the most humbling experience I’ve ever gone through.” The article shares some of her experiences and feelings as a new mother. I have a very similar perspective as her. Parenting truly is the most humbling experience.
With the birth of our son William, this is a different birthday, as are all of our days.
As life changes, love changes. I thought I loved Julia before with all my heart, but my love for her feels even fuller now. Julia has become my truest inspiration.
I’ve been profoundly moved by how amazing Julia was during labor and how she has been the first weeks of William’s life. During labor she demonstrated incredible strength and courage. With William she is perfectly caring: exploring the new adventures each day, seeking to understand and help him with each challenge, soothing him, cuddling him, and playing with with.
This experience has also given me new appreciation of my mom, Julia’s mom, and all moms. This Mother’s Day William 
gave Julia, Lois and Donna some beauty treatment. It will be Julia’s first time at a spa.
Julia’s first gift today for her birthday from William and I was letting her sleep in to noon — it is a pretty good gift when you have a little one More gifts to come…
Happy Birthday Julia! You are my inspiration!
You may be wondering about the radio silence. Well, it has been for the very best of reasons. My son was born one month ago on Monday, April 7 after a long weekend of work for him and his mom Julia.
Life is extraordinary! Every single time I hold him, I marvel that every little part of him is just like us, a bit of us, but in miniature and developing quickly. He is my son.
My life has new meaning!
Our baby joins us a little more each day.
Today, Julia is one month away from her due date, and today was Julia’s last day of work. Of course, the baby has its own clock.
For both of us, baby’s arrival has lately seemed… more real, and anticipated. We are enjoying the process of preparing for baby, and we are both incredibly both nervous and excited.
Julia and I had a practical birth preparation course on Sunday with Victoria local yoga master, philosopher and former registered nurse, Helga Beer. It was awesome!
Julia and I haven’t attended her yogo classes for the last many months. I had forgotten how much I get out of her philosophy.
During the course she mentioned Mark Gungor’s Men’s Brain Women’s Brain:
I hadn’t heard of this video. It’s hilarious! It’s clear Mark has some insights into having a better marriage, “laugh your way to a better marriage” his site says.
The box theory of men’s brains resonated with me, and I have a particularly bad case of it. It relates to my expertise and career in software problem identification, analysis, and resolution. And a clear symptom is my repulsion when an email or forum discussion has multiple topics in it, or when the discussion travels onto a different issue.
Of course, I grin and bear it, because most of life doesn’t suit the clean, discrete presentation as a bug report. Life is dynamic and messy, but still my boxes definitely don’t touch. Julia you’re so generous in your love for me!
This photo was taken by our friend Dani September, 2005 soon after we arrived in San Francisco to live there. We slept on her couch for the the first while. She took it without us knowing while we slept.
I like this photo so much because of how genuine and innocent it is.
In a few short months Julia and I will have our baby to watch over while he or she sleeps.
Today is a big day. Today Julia’s dear friends Nadia and Andrew are getting married. (Tomorrow, I fly out to San Fran for five weeks).
On a busy day like this, who wants to worry about making breakfast
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